Sunday, 6 March 2011

Back on the road


A few words about my 3-day trip last week to Nigeria, where I visited the commercial capital Lagos -- a sprawling, chaotic, dirty, noisy and wonderfully energetic city of 10m or so (feels like more) -- as well as the somewhat-more-refined political capital Abuja. This was my first work-related trip to Sub Saharan Africa (outside of South Africa) and was certainly the most intense "third world" city experience I have had. From the moment I, bleary-eyed at 6am, stepped out of the sealed environment of BA business class into the crumbling corridors of Murtala Muhammed airport, it was clear that my time inLagos would not be dull. The city assaults you (figuratively, sometimes literally!). People are everywhere, in a combination of frenetic motion and stillness (lots of people just hanging around) and everywhere surrounded by derelict infrastructure. I am told that most recent decent railroad in Africa north of Johannesburg is the east African line built by the British in 1910; as this indicates, it's been a long time since much was invested in Africa, and the city, bustling as it is, projects an aura of long-term neglect. 

My visit started off with a complication when the car I had ordered was not waiting for me, and of course there was no taxi stand where I could pick up a ride into down (indeed I saw no evidence of a taxi fleet in Lagos, although I there were a few taxis in Abuja). Here is an easy test for whether a country is truly an 'emerging market' or not; if a traveller flies into the airport for the first time, can he or she easily and safely get from the airport to a hotel? By this test Nigeria clearly qualifies as emerging. Standing at the airport entrance with a befuddled look on my face, I was clearly the white guy who didn't have a ride and quickly attracted attention of many peddlers. Fortunately my phone worked, so I ignored an increasingly vocal group of would-be chauffeurs and managed to contact my hotel and to track down the driver, who was in fact at the airport but was, they said, unable to drive up to the pick-up point. Reason unclear. I was directed me to wheel my luggage self-assuredly past the teeming crowds, through a gate, down an airport access road against traffic until I eventually got to another gate where my guy was indeed waiting, having a relaxed smoke with some other drivers.

Said driver greeted me, finished his cigarette and drove me into town at breakneck speed through the morning rushhour in a symphonic performance of horn honking, shouting and fist shaking that is doubtless very common in that part of the world, filled with swerves, sudden stops, and countless close calls (measured in centimeters). For me, the most harrowing aspect of driving in Lagos was actually how close the speeding drivers came to hordes of pedestrians walking along the road -- most of whom are simply trying to cross the street -- where a mistake of a few inches would mean a lost limb or worse. Somehow the game of brinkmanship always manages to resolve itself without harm to anyone.

I made it to my hotel, the Federal Palace -- said to be the best in Nigeria and up to the standard of a mid-market Marriott Courtyard (but at $350 a night!) -- and eventually met up with a few colleagues with whom I spent the next couple of days meeting companies (mostly banks -- but also a sugar refinery, 2 photos from this below) in Lagos. We then flew to Abuja where I spent a day seeing some government agencies and as well as the IMF. It was fascinating. Despite all of Nigeria's very visible problems I came back feeling optimistic about the place. I met enough smart, articulate, hard working Nigerians that seem committed to making the country work that I did have the sense there is a shot at making some real headway against Nigeria's historical problems (corruption, underinvestment, political turmoil). There are so many 'easy wins', like building a few power stations so the entire country does not need to rely upon diesel generators. Politics are probably most important, and given the turmoil in North Africa nowadays, as well as in countries even closer to Nigeria like Ivory Coast it is hard to make predictions with much confidence. However if Nigeria's April elections go reasonably well, the next few years could be an exciting time for the country. 

My final hours in Nigeria were a bit of a reality check against getting too optimistic. Battling through traffic in Abuja my driver took some creative short cuts (driving on dirt makeshift dirt roads parallel to the highway for miles) and at one point was ambushed by a 'policeman' (at least someone wearing a policeman-like uniform) who literally jumped in front of the car and then called his buddies over. Before I knew it several uniformed guys were standing around our car, another was sitting in the passenger seat; a few had large-looking guns. A prolonged negotiation ensued, during which my driver got surprisingly animated in making his case for innocence, seemingly unintimidated by the guns and at one point appearing to have won over at least one of the 'policemen'. After 30 minutes of this, I was starting to wonder both whether I would miss my flight and whether I might be in some danger. However at no point did anyone acknowledge my presence, much less threaten me, and in the end after 40 minutes of negotiations we were released, my driver having given up his driver's license, which he told me he would reclaim later that day for a 2000 naira fine ($15). I made my fight, and in the end it felt like a happy ending. 


Monday, 28 February 2011

London Museums: The Movie

Producer's note: no children were harmed in the production of this movie.


Sunday, 27 February 2011

Scoot



A pretty good couple of weeks round here. Major milestone was Sadie's accomplishment of a goal that has been four months in the making: getting potty trained at last (more or less). A whole week of dry pants got her a much-anticipated purple scooter that she has started to use a little inside, although she's still a little reluctant to use it outside.

Her reaction to achieving her promised reward has been beaming pride, mixed with moments of hesitation. The night after she got the scooter she woke up crying in the middle of the night, sobbing "take the scooter back, I don't want it anymore". She never explained why she said that, and had changed her mind by morning, but my interpretation was that she is finding the process of growing up to be a little stressful at times.

All in all, we've been quite busy. I had a fascinating but exhausting trip to Nigeria which I'll write about later. Karen has started medical classes which (I assume) she'll also write about. On the weekends, we have been sticking to our usual neighborhood routines like ballet as well as a couple of trips to museums (London Transport last week, British this week). We had dim sum with some ballet friends, Hunter, Jenny and Sophia -- and last night hosted our first dinner party with big Parker and some friends of his, Charlie and Shana (who live in the area and have a son little Parker's age).

Today we just got a bit of a curve ball with recent unwelcome news that Sadie's nursery is closing down after the summer. A part of life that we thought was settled has just become unsettled again. 

Thursday, 24 February 2011

Drugs.

As part of the volunteer work I'm doing with Prisoner's Family and Friend Service, I had the opportunity to meet one of the only judges in England who's running a "drug court". The phrase makes it sound slightly more sordid than it is really. In short it's simply a diversionary court that deals solely with low-level criminal offenses that are motivated by drug addiction. Today I spent the day observing this court in action. The takeaway is that the Brits are far better at treating their "criminals" like human beings than Americans are. Judge Phillips made an effort to ensure that everyone who appeared before him received a hug before they were released back into the community. Most were also given a lecture on the impurities of street drugs nowadays, so why waste your time and money? I'm not sure how successful this approach is at keeping addicts on the straight and narrow. And the idea of any NJ judge hugging any of my former clients is truly laughable.


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Monday, 14 February 2011

Posh weekend

Not much to add to Karen's post except to say that, yes, that was one great 24 hour getaway with my Valentine. The Four Seasons Hampshire is a posh weekend getaway about an hour from London, in a converted historic Georgian estate surrounded by gardens and with a great spa and restaurant. Not exactly a budget weekend, but worth it in the name of survival...
K & I took off after Sadie's ballet class on Saturday morning, taking the tube to Waterloo and a 45m train ride on to Fleet, a small town in the Hampshire countryside, and from there a short ride by cab to the hotel. Andrea (our nanny) watched the kids until our return during early afternoon the next day.  Everyone had a good time. Short but very sweet.





Back in London, I must say that it finally feels like we're finding our rhythm. Everyone's healthy, Karen's starting classes soon (more to come on that) and kids are doing well. Actually Sadie is still 2 year old for a few more months and it shows; she's become harder work lately -- lots of crazy energy, a surge of attitude and defiance after several more agreeable months. But hilarious, incredibly verbal and most of the time lots of fun. She's slowly making progress in potty training and it feels like we're getting closer (an accident-free day today!). Parker is affable, well fed, sleeping like a champ at last, and almost done teething (one eye tooth to go!). So no complaints this week.

Sunday, 13 February 2011

Four seasons.

Someone once told me that to truly be secure in a relationship you should spend a full year, or four seasons, getting to know one another. After spending a night away at the Four Seasons in Hampshire with Andrew, eating decadent food, drinking good wine, taking a lovely countryside walk and a late night swim, I can reaffirm that our relationship is secure and I love him deeply. I'm sure he'll have more to add about our weekend jaunt, but I just wanted to try out my new blogging app!
Happy Valentines Day Andrew!




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Sunday, 6 February 2011

Hangin' around


Not a whole lot to report this week. Which begs the question of why post anything at all... but in honesty I just wanted an excuse to post this picture of little P, taken today in the back yard as I attempted to rake leaves (which consisted of much more throwing kids in the pile than raking). Weather's continued to be quite warm, which has allowed a little exploration of our garden and looking forward to using it as much as we can this summer. Also had a fun time today with Joe Proctor, who came over with his two kids Katya and Will (a few years older than Sadie and very good with her, so she had a blast).  Other highlights of the week were a good 24-hour biz trip to Prague for me (as usual I didn't see much of the city, although I did walk across the scenic Charles Bridge to get to dinner), and a trip to the British museum for Karen. But mostly hangin' around. Parker's in final throes of teething, Sadie's focused on potty training... but all healthy. 

Sunday, 30 January 2011

Feeling better

This headline sums up this week's top accomplishment: everyone is feeling a lot better than this time a week ago. Most importantly, Parker turned a corner on Sunday afternoon (as usually happens not long after I take him in to the doc) and by mid-week was back to his old self. Actually quite a bit better than his old self as he seems to be learning at last, at the ripe age of 17 months, to sleep more solidly and consistently than before. This may simply be because Karen & I were so knackered last week that we dusted off the 'cry it out' Ferber method, turned of the baby monitor and just let him holler -- and it seems to have worked.  Hallelujah, may it endure. Sadie's also healthy again, back in school, ballet, etc. Only Karen's not 100% there, still battling a sinus infection, but she's close.

Thus mostly restored we've spent some of our newfound energy trying to get a little more moved into our flat. This meant some purchases from Ikea and eBay, quite a bit of flatpack assembly work for Andrew and Parker (not always the most efficient team), and discussions about curtains and a faux fireplace. So far we have a new TV to show for it --which does not yet work -- as well as new dining room chairs and some toy storage. I wouldn't call it a total transformation but it's feeling a little more lived in.

We even got out a bit over the weekend -- to ballet; two teas with friends (on Saturday, Big Parker and Anna and their 3 daughters; on Sunday, my colleague and neighbor Igor, his wife and 2 kids); and this morning a visit to the Science Museum and walk through Hyde Park in sunny, almost spring-like weather.


Saturday, 22 January 2011

Home sweet holidays


Despite the inauspicious way in which we departed, and our rootless, jet-setting movements during the month -- by my count I slept in 10 different cities, a bit fewer for Karen and the kids -- our holiday time in the USA was truly great. We arrived in what was, by all accounts, pretty rough shape. All four of us in varying states of illness and fatigue. Insomnia, laryngitis, nauseau and pinkeye all among reported symptoms. To our good fortune, we were awaited by the welcoming arms of the Howell grandparents, the Ellis sibling/cousins, Punam, Natty, Uncle Buck, Denia, Nadya, Inna and others -- all of whom pitched in to get us back on our feet. Although the jetlag was not exactly easy (Parker had a few very early mornings to start with), by week two we were all pretty adjusted, rested, and on our way to feeling much better.



In all three of our primary locations -- Washington, Buffalo and Maplewood -- we had a great time, filled with family and old friends. DC highlights included: lots of hanging our on 2923 Macomb Street with family, reading of A Child's Christmas in Wales and an improv Christmas pageant, the 'traditional' Christmas steak & egg breakfast, trips around Washington to places like the Botanical Gardens and American Indian Museum, a great evening in Mount Ranier at the Ellises new place, late night Catan-fest on New Year's Eve and a trip down to see the Griscoms in Harrisonburg; in Buffalo: Grandma's 90th birthday, sledding, a visit back to the Drip coffee shop on Elmwood, the amazing Museum of Play in Rochester, buffalo wings, a fabulous weekend in Toronto (Karen can probably add more as I was traveling for part of the week); in Maplewood: time with some of our good friends from the 'hood, a swing by our old red ('reggie') home, and a visitation of the great new drive-through Dunkin Donuts that has recently made it to the neighborhood.

It was a fiendishly complex itinerary, but amazingly it all came together (including my brief criss-crossing of New York-Boston-Minneapolis-Austin-San Francisco for work). By the time the four week visit was up we felt more or less revitalized, renewed, reinvigorated and reconnected  -- with an injection of energy to tackle 2011 in London after what was an encouraging but challenging first few months. We were also looking forward to unpacking our suitcases and getting back to a routine again.

Unfortunately... 2011 in London has not exactly gotten off to any easy start. Indeed it kind of picked up where it left off: struggling with health issues. The main problem has been Parker, who has been sick from the day we flew back from New York a week ago. Started with a stomach bug -- which unfortunately meant not much sleep and lots of vomiting on the slight back -- and in the past few days has morphed into an upper respiratory infection that now has him in really rough shape (and precipitated his 5th trip to the A&E with me this afternoon). Poor little Parker, he has had such a hard time staying healthy these past few months, and we're very worried about him. (As I write I can hear him coughing from his room as he tries to sleep.) On top of this, the week was also complicated by a stomach virus that afflicted Karen, Sadie and Andrea the nanny (oddly, not me) -- passing after a couple of days but also resulting in more missed work, school and disrupted routine. Yuck!

So... we're back in London, optimistic about the coming year but most of all dreaming of getting everyone healthy and back on track. En shallah!